The Magic Of Mentoring

Jill Kohler credits much of her success to the power of female mentorship. The owner of Scottsdale-based cosmetology and skin therapy school Kohler Academy forged a deep friendship with REDKEN executive Ann Mincey, herself a veteran of more than 30 years in the fiercely competitive beauty industry. Chance encounters at industry trade shows and meetings led to their bond, which has lasted nearly two decades. “Ann gave me the best example of how I could be a mentor to other people,” Kohler says. “I firmly believe if women supported each other more, we’d all win.”

To learn more about the power of female mentorship, we met up with Kohler, who is a guiding force for hundreds of students eager to enter the beauty industry. She shared her wisdom on why female mentors are important, how successful bonds are formed, plus some important dos and don’ts.

Q: Why is it so important for women to serve as mentors for other women?

A: "Good mentors are stabilizing, and when they are truly there for you, they can be a great directional compass. I know, because at age 44, I’ve had some great mentors who’ve helped me. But some people mistake mentoring for giving advice. Mentoring is more about the exploration of what you want and need to do. It’s all about the why."

Q: What’s the best way to find a mentor? Or become one?

A: "Every article you read says you’ve got to network. I don’t think it’s about going to mixers and handing out your business cards. I think it’s better to show up at industry events and volunteer as a committee member. I prefer one relationship that’s 100 feet deep versus 100 relationships that are one-foot deep. It becomes more meaningful when you slow down and connect with someone. I think mentoring relationships need to evolve naturally. Chances are there’s someone in your life right now who’s a mentor, even though you might not use the term."

Q: What are the key ingredients to a successful mentor relationship?

A:"A good mentor must sincerely want you to succeed and have your best interests at heart. Diversity is also good. It’s really healthy when you’re different ages or one has a lot more experience. Ann and I are very different people. She doesn’t have children and isn’t married. I grew up in Omaha, Nebraska, and she has lived primarily in New York City. I also think the relationship has to start face-to-face. If I had never met Ann and it was based on texting and e-mailing, I don’t think it would have worked."

This story, written by Lori K. Baker, is part of the Chamber's new monthly Businesswise for Women email. To receive any or all of our email newsletters, click here.